Practical tips for being assertive
Realize that it's all in your head. In situations where you feel you are not speaking your mind, ask yourself why and then ask, "What's the worst thing that couldhappen if I share my thoughts in a civil, clear manner?"The answers to these questions may very well be all you need to calm down and act assertively.Very often, people will see how silly their fears are and that the fears are rooted in their minds, not reality.
Realize that it's all in your head. In situations where you feel you are not speaking your mind, ask yourself why and then ask, "What's the worst thing that couldhappen if I share my thoughts in a civil, clear manner?"The answers to these questions may very well be all you need to calm down and act assertively.Very often, people will see how silly their fears are and that the fears are rooted in their minds, not reality.
Let your intentions motivate your response. Allow yourself to take a moment and identify your beliefs, opinions, and intentions for sharing a thought. The desire to please others often gets in the way of a person'sthinking process and opinion formation.
Be specific. Don't say, "We need that ASAP." Insteadsay, "I need the proposal finished and on my desk by 8a.m. Friday. What do you need to accomplish that?" The more you can avoid assumptions or mixed messages, thebetter.
Don't feign agreement. Don't substitute smiling,nodding, or adopting other body language that suggestsagreement just for the sake of keeping the peace. Disagree actively, but do it in a civil manner! Express disagreement with the idea, not the person -- for example, "I have another opinion, which I'd like to throw on the table."
Ask for clarification. Request more information when asked to do something you believe is unreasonable. Perhaps the explanation will help you understand the request more fully and give you the confidence and assurance to say yes or no.
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Don't feign agreement. Don't substitute smiling,nodding, or adopting other body language that suggestsagreement just for the sake of keeping the peace. Disagree actively, but do it in a civil manner! Express disagreement with the idea, not the person -- for example, "I have another opinion, which I'd like to throw on the table."
Ask for clarification. Request more information when asked to do something you believe is unreasonable. Perhaps the explanation will help you understand the request more fully and give you the confidence and assurance to say yes or no.
Your Opinion??: marielafernandasgro@gmail.com
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